I am agender. This means that I do not consider myself to be female, male, or anywhere on the gender identity spectrum. It’s considered to be a form of non-binary gender identity.
This is because I find gender to be irrelevant to how I perceive myself, live my life or interact with others.
Pronouns and titles
I use it/its pronouns.
I’m conscious that many people feel uncomfortable using it/its pronouns as they consider them to be dehumanising, but given I do not want to be human, I hope that people try them out.
If you’re still uncomfortable with using it/its, then use singular they/them.
I use the gender-neutral title ‘Mx’.
In contexts where the gender binary is foolishly being enforced, I use she/her pronouns and the title ‘Ms’.
I consider myself to be transgender—as my gender identity is not what was assigned at birth—and I take hormones with the goal of developing a more androgynous physical appearance.
I first publicly described being agender in 2013, in “On Gender and Sexuality”. As a part of this I started experimenting with my gender presentation.
More than a year later, I started identifying as a transgender woman, on the basis of my physical dysphoria and because I found feminine gender presentation to be more satisfying than masculine presentation. I adopted a new name and she/her pronouns at this time.
However, over the following years, my comfort with feminine gender presentation started to wane. Following my exploration into machine identity, I reverted to identifying as agender and explicitly using it/its or they/them pronouns.